Our responsibility as a church can be boiled down to its most simple form in this statement, “We must reach to those separated from God and disciple those for whom we are responsible.”
When we substitute similar sounding, but errant, goals, we start doing things that aren’t healthy. For example, when we make our goal into something like, “We must grow our church,” we start doing things to get people in the building. Not all things that get people in the building are healthy or conform to our real goal, but so many churches are built on the attractional model of “ministry” that they continue to turn out shallow disciples year after year.
When getting people in the building, in the program, in the church is our goal, we would never tell someone that they wouldn’t be happy in our church and that they should look elsewhere, but we often should.
Last year I got an email from a man moving to Tulsa from another city and was looking for a church. He’d found our website and wanted to know about our ministry to Youth because he was an active Youth worker in his current church and was looking to get involved.
Sounds like a dream come true, right?
I emailed him back and asked him what his spiritual convictions were about worship and how a church relates to the culture of America, stating that if we weren’t a fit, I’d help him find a church that did fit his convictions.
He responded that he was a firm believer in singing hymns only and reading the King James Version only and that all other kinds of churches were just chasing culture – along with a few other things.
I thanked him for responding so candidly and explained that we were in disagreement on several issues and was confident that our church was not for him.
I had, however, done some research and found a church that seemed to agree with him on the issues he brought up and referred him to it in hopes it would meet his need.
I never heard from him again.
The point is that knowing what our actual goal is allows us to do what is healthy in terms of meeting that goal, rather than doing unhealthy things that push us toward something that is not our goal.