I’ve frequently observed to anyone who would listen, that a church works best when the congregation trusts its leaders and the leaders are trustworthy. If either is failing, the church will suffer and disaster is imminent. If both are failing, disaster is upon you.
The author of Hebrews describes the relationship this way:
17 Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you. – Hebrews 13:17 ESV
Of course, those who’ve spent much time in church have heard, if not seen, abuses by pastors who are not using their authority to watch over their congregation, but for their own worldly desires. Just as likely, the same people can retell stories that center on the abuses members of congregations have heaped on faithful servants of God.
Still, if you’ve ever been a part of a healthy church, one where the Pastor and congregation treat each other Biblically and carefully, you know that there is no sweeter group of people with which you can journey this life.
Here are a few observations about being a part of such a family:
- Healthy church relationships are easier to maintain than to regain. Water over the dam and under the bridge, once a set of relationships become overwhelmed with sin and selfishness, it’s hard for us to reconcile. Not that we shouldn’t give everything to do it. We should. It’s just that, most times, people won’t.
- Healthy church relationships require correction & humility. Everyone needs to be humble in order to receive correction when necessary and to have it received from them when the time comes. Without correction, injustices (perceived or real) fester and trust breaks down. Humble correction and repentance builds trust and takes relationships deeper than they’ve ever been before.
- The congregation bears the lion’s share of the responsibility. True, it is the responsibility of the leaders to correct those who are rebelling against the Lord, but it is also the responsibility of every other believer to correct their brothers and sisters. Humbly, with love, out of compassion for them and a desire for their good, we must all bear the burdens of correcting those we love. But practically speaking, if the congregation does not correct the brother or sister who is tearing down the body, it will be assumed that they are all in agreement with the ever growing grumblings resonating from the heart of the offender, whether that offender is pastor or congregant. In short, what is done in the body must by done by the body, in unity, with humility.
Anything you would add?