Ok, there are still some who are having a hard time understanding missionality and how it fits into church.
Let me see if this works for you: We’re called to be Salt and Light (Matthew 5:13). Those two things are only effective/valuable when interacting with things – salt with food and light with darkness.
Let’s just take light for our example. If you have a flashlight you are shining it around in a well lit room, it doesn’t do much. However, if you are in a sealed off basement with no other light source, that flashlight – no matter how small – is going to be invaluable.
That is supposed to be each of us. The lost in our world are living in spiritual darkness and need light among them. Too often, however, we are more comfortable hanging out with people who believe and act as we do – other Christians.
So, if we are to be a light to the darkness, we can’t hang out with each other all the time (some of the time is good and needed) but we are going to have to go where lost people are hanging out and live out our genuine Christian faith in front of them.
By the way, this is not a sales pitch opportunity where we whip out a tract and offer them “salvation for the low, low price of submission to Christ” – as if that were a low price. Salespeople want something from you – your money. When we witness like sales people, lost and hurting people think that we want something from them – their time, their attendance at church, their money in offerings… who knows? They are hurting from all that is being demanded of them already. They don’t have anymore to be siphoned off by us. I know that’s not what we are trying to do, but it’s what they think we are trying to do. That’s what makes a difference.
We just can’t do it like that any more. Not if we want to be effective. We have got to get where lost people are living and talking so that we can join in.
When the “Theology at the Bottleworks” stuff hit the headlines (where The Journey, a church in St. Louis, was having a Bible Study in a micro brewery – their pastor, Darren Patrick, specifically said they were just trying to get in on the conversations lost people were already having in a place where lost people gathered) CB Scott told me that “back in the day” he would go into a bar and sit next to a guy who was trying to numb his pain and do the same thing. He thought the flap was a bit silly. I concur.
When it comes to teenagers, though, there are certain places where lost people are that they should be able to be a light, like school. I am FOR Christian kids in public schools for that very reason, by the way. My kids both know that they are to be a light to the lost kids around them. I know that they hear things they wouldn’t if they were schooled at home. That’s why I teach them to be the one that sets the standard and not the one who conforms to it. If I can’t correct the things that they learn at school, then I’m not a very strong Christian, anyway, and have no business being a pastor.
Other places, however, are not places I want to send my kids, like parties. No, not the birthday kind, but the tailgate of the pick up, out in the county with a cooler or a keg kind of party.
As a result, within youth ministry we create a safe place where lost kids can come to church and be exposed to the light. That’s why it is so important to do “fun things” that will create opportunities for conversations and relationships to grow. It is also why it is so important to have something worth giving when they get there. Game night should be a part of the diet, and not the main course.
Anyway, Youth Ministry has a “ya’ll come” aspect to it, if it is to be effective in reaching lost kids and not just sanctifying the kids of the current church membership. It is an Inverse Missionality, if you will. If we are going to be effective in having lost kids come to us so that they may come to the Lord, there are some things that the church is going to have to do.
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We are going to have to get used to kids with hats on in the church house – even during worship. If it was about our comfort, then we can ask them to take it off. They will, and they will get the message that they have to be somebody else if they are going to get along in church. Now, I am not a big fan of hats in worship, but I am a big fan of lost people getting saved and one is valuable and one is just my personal comfort. Before I go on, the hat thing is personal preference and the enforcement of it at the expense of the lost is the addition of laws to the Gospel. To me, it is our version of the Judiazers of whom Paul thought so little. Would he advocate that they “go the whole way” with the removal of their noggin just above the shoulders?
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Understand that kids are hard on property and lost kids are harder than most. Church kids are still kids, but, hopefully, their parents have done something along the lines of teaching them respect for property – especially property dedicated to the worship of God. (I know, all you missionals out there, church property is an entirely different issue. Just realize that most of the readers here are in traditional church models and it is an issue for them, even if you are in a storefront, school cafeteria or micro brewery.) Lost kids are probably coming out of lost homes and that means that they have probably not been taught our values. They can’t be expected to learn them first, either (see above). That means we are going to have to be willing to clean, repaint, fix holes, cover grafitti and love them anyway. The building can’t become our sacred cow that is more valuable than the souls of students. My uncle who pastors in Memphis has a school nearby his church and the kids were coming over to the church building and hanging out on the porch after school. Of course, romantic pennings of teenage love made its way onto the pillars. The church originally wanted to fence off the entire front yard so that the lost kids couldn’t get to the church. My uncle talked them out of it. His quote to me? “Nothing says, ‘Welcome’ like chain link.”
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We’ve got to give them their own space. It needs to be a place that they can feel at home in and that they know won’t be taken away from them. When we won’t let them decorate or play music that creates a safe, godly, teenage friendly place, we tell them we would prefer them be themselves somewhere else, and since we are doing the “ya’ll come” thing, obviously, this is counterproductive.
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Provide safe transportation. We are dealing with this issue ourselves. The stuff that drives Youth Ministry is often off campus, and many times out of town. If we are going to win these kids’ souls, we must send the message first that we value them. One way we do that is by showing that we value their safety. They may never really understand the value we place on their safety and they may well grate against us making them put on their seatbelts, but I can assure you that if we consistantly send them out in vehicles that break down, they will understand that they are not at the top of our priority list.
Disclaimer – For any church members reading this, I am not publicly advocating any particular way of dealing with our transportation needs. I am observing what I said to the church in our last meeting, the safety of our kids is paramount and whatever decision we make, we must get this right. I am advocating getting this right for the right reasons. :)
Anyway, after 19 years of Youth Ministry, I am about to wrap up my first year as a Lead Pastor. These are just a few thoughts that I have had brewing since the 80′s and since I am the “Pastor” now, I can say it without people thinking I am just defending myself when the kids trash the foyer.
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Just a couple of additions to my list.
5. As Jim said in the comment section, understand teenagers are going to probably look at Wednesday night worship as their primary worship. More on this in the comment section.
6. Along with safety in transportation, we need to be sure and protect our kids from predators. This is incumbant on US and no one else. Background checks and safety programs and guidelines are key. If you ever have an incident of predatory abuse, then you can be sure that your church’s reputation concerning that will be all over the community and you will struggle for decades to regain your rep – especially with the lost of your community who so often have an ax to grind with the church anyway. It goes without saying that if you don’t do your due diligence in protecting the children under your care, you deserve a negative reputation.
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